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Should I ask for closure 4 months after a break up?

Fri, Mar 14th 2008

I met this great guy who I thought I was gonna get married to. We were very compatible and we had the same outlook in life. Everything was great until his parents got involved. He slowly stopped calling me and checking on me over the months and eventually I confronted him with this. He said that he was struggling b/w us and his parents. One of the reasons they were against me was because of my religion. I broke up with him because I was so upset that he would be so influenced by his parents to let them come between us and that he couldn't choose me for me. He briefly mentioned to get back together, but I needed reassurance that what happened won't come between us again and I said that I couldn't. He asked for friendship but I knew that I couldn't be friends with him. It's been five months now that we haven't spoken. I had asked him to never contact me, in hopes that I would get over him. He never contacted me, and I still think about him. I miss him a lot and feel that he is probably the closest of a perfect partner that I could find. I don't know what to do. I can't seem to find closure of what has been said and what happened. At the same time I don't know if it's too late to ask for answers and to find closure. I don't want to loose my dignity and respect either for asking now. I don't know what to do. I've been torturing myself with this whole thing for so long. Please advise!

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