My husband has left me for another woman. How do I let go?Tue, Jan 6th 2009
My husband left me & our infant over 6 months ago. It seems he's gone back to his ex wife although he denies that as being the reason he left.
I was SO committed to this man & our relationship (a 2nd marriage for both of us). believed him each time he told me he was "here forever" & how there was nothing better. Imagine my devastation over it coming to an end.
It's 6 months and I am not well. I have done everything I could to try to get my husband to rejoin me in counseling, attend a marriage retreat (he took his ex wife on a family vacation that week instead), listen to me profess how much value I held & how there was nothing I wouldn't do to save us. He's filed for divorce. Said he had no other choice. Claims to have gone through his own emotional disbelief & heartache since he too never thought he'd ever be gone.
I am still hanging on, still hoping, still praying, despite how much more ill I become each day. No one has a crystal ball or can foretell the future. And I know my husband is adamant right now with what he wants (since he's at the ex's day & night, day after day). But what do I do to get over the incredible hurt, the pain, the disbelief? The lies I now feel I was led all those years?
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