Grieving All The TimeSat, Apr 30th 2005
My marriage was breaking down for the 2nd time and we started divorce proceedings when I met someone at my job. I was very attracted to him and he seemed nice and sincere. We developed a relationship which I tried to keep discreet since the divorce had not gone through and my ex was still living in the house. I fell deeply in love with this person, we talked on the phone for hours and called each other any time of the day or night. I never had any relationship other than with my husband before. I trusted this person and believed him and all he told me. On December 24 last year he said that he loved me. I believed him and felt so happy. This relationship has been going on for over 2 years. But in January this year I discovered that he has been living with someone for some months. I was shocked and devastated. I kept crying and could not stop. I would call him crying and he would insult me. I almost had a nervous breakdown and went on medication. I miss him all of the time. We work in the same place and it is very difficult for me. I cannot stop grieving. I am now divorced with my 2 kids and I feel so betrayed. He told me that I was vulnerable and that I should just move on. I cannot seem to be able to come to terms with someone being so cruel. I feel depressed all of the time.
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